If you are in the market to purchase a home chances are you have a vision of what you want your house to look and feel like. Mostly likely, in your vision, your house reflects who you are. This is so important and yet, more often than not, over shadowed by other pressuring issues in the home buying process like, financing, timing, location, etc. Your vision can be easily downplayed as “just a feeling” that you’ll overcome. Not true.
Finding a house that reflects your personality and fits your life style is, as important as, any other pressing issue. It should be at the top of your list. Based on my real estate knowledge and professional image consulting experience, I know that, in terms of the psychological shopping process, as I call it, buying a house and buying a dress/suite for a special occasion are very similar. Obviously, buying a house is a bigger financial commitment, I hope. However, the psychological shopping process, produces similar desired outcomes: confidence, comfort, contentment with investment, and a overall feeling good sensation, or should we say, happiness. No doubt that to achieve these outcomes, you have to be mentally ready to buy. Otherwise, chances are you’ll make a poor decision. And, as we know, there are always consequences when poor decisions are made. This will be the case whether you’re buying the house of your dreams or a perfect dress/suite.
When you are ready to buy your home, make sure to listen to your inner voice. It is that little voice, feeling, or sensation that lets you know when you have found your match. We all have it. Unfortunately, not everyone is tuned in to it. A knowledgeable real estate agent, with an understanding of the psychological shopping process, will guide and help you listen and trust your inner voice.
If you decide to not to work with agent, your inner voice may be over powered by other influences like: peer pressure and your own insecurities–not knowing what you’re doing or want. These influences may not be apparent to you at the beginning, but they always find a way to manifest themselves. For example, if you buy a home under peer pressure, and don’t love it, and it feels like it was never quite the right “fit”, such influence may manifest by you not: taking good care of the house as you would if you really love it; valuing your investment as much; or feeling comfortable in your own home, which is definitely not the way to live.
If you are still skeptical about the psychological shopping process similarities between buying a house and buying a dress/suite, and how it relates to listening to your inner voice, read the following three statements, if you agree with any of them, then I have made my point. When shopping you want:
1. The dress/suite fits perfectly. / The house matches (fits) your personality
2. The dress/suite makes you feel confident. / The house makes you feel confident about the investment
3.The dress/suite reflects who you are. / The house reflects your lifestyle.
It is important to keep in mind the term, “perfect fit”. In keeping with the similarities between buying a house and buying a dress/suite, alterations are a common need in either case to achieve the perfect fit. There will always be compromises–alterations– to be made along the way.
The most important principle of finding the “perfect” house is to make sure it is a reflection of you. Everything else flows from there. This is why is so important for you to listen and trust your inner voice, and work with expert who can guide you in the process. The outcome of your home buying experience should be a reflection of you!
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